Hi’, Im Nic.

I wanted to take a minute to introduce myself and tell you a little about me.

At heart I’m someone who has always been fascinated by love, the human connection and the ways we as people interact.

My mission is helping to educate and inspire women on what healthy relationships are meant to look and’ feel like. I know what it’s like to feel insecure, disconnected, isolated, and stuck. Waking up with bouts of crippling anxiety at the prospect of living another day unhappy, unfulfilled and simply feeling, “not good enough” Trying so hard to find a committed healthy relationship yet repeating patterns that would ultimately end in disappointment and heart-break. Feelings of shame and deep sadness, believing I was incapable of being able to love and be loved. I tried out all the “tricks”, tips and programs. I blamed the men, blamed myself, I felt abandoned, often hurt, and constantly wondered why everyone else seemed to find it so easy to settle down and find the “one”.

In the end it came down to what I believed about myself & how I felt about myself.

I had been living in codependent relationships for two decades and didn’t even know it. When I hit a rock-bottom in a breakup a few years ago, it was all revealed to me; my fears came rushing in and my patterns rose to the surface for me to finally see them clearly. My fears of being alone, my deep longing for the love and attention outside of me, the fact that I had placed my power in another person making them the source of my love and happiness. Recognising just like drugs, alcohol or food, relationships can be a powerful addiction, although they are not often viewed that way in our culture. Afterall isnt it the epitomy of love to find someone who “completes” us?? Beliefs like this are the very reason relationships dont work.

After all these realisations there was no turning back.

I was finally ready to do things differently. Knowing there must be a better way, I stepped onto my spiritual path. I went back to study, wanting to specialise in this growing area and issue of relationship addiction, to educate myself and help other women. I experienced a radical transformation from the inside out, beginning with the relationship with myself. The first step was awareness — recognising the ways in which I had been living in codependent relationships and letting fear run the show, which was not love.

A lot of the time codependency looks like intense love, but “needing” another person often stems from fear, not love.

 The bottom line being – Lack Of Self-Love leaves an end-less gap that can never be filled by another person.

When we don’t love ourselves deeply, we’re always looking for someone else to do it for us – hoping the unloved part of us will just go away. We’re demanding from others the love we’re not giving to ourselves, So, you’d think that lack of self love would repel everyone. But that’s simply not the case. When we don’t love ourselves enough, we still attract partners – just not the right ones.

We attract other people who don’t love themselves, either!

And since deep inside we don’t believe we deserve to be loved completely, we end up pushing away the very love we want.

It’s like a dog chasing its tail. We keep running after the love we want, and we never catch it. So not only do we not feel loved, but we waste time with people who simply can’t love us-or anyone else.

I believe love is the only thing that is real. All else is an illusion in place to teach us valuable lessons and ultimately lead us to our complete acceptance of ourselves. Thus I coach to illuminate the distinction between fear and love, our ego and our hearts. My method is a combination of all my practical training alongside my intuition and deeper spiritual truths.

I’ve overcome numerous challenges and issues on my journey to find my own connection, self worth and to learn to truly love myself. What I learnt along the way was to make love my spiritual practice. A daily commitment, and an intention, to make LOVE and loving yourself a priority. To BE love.

Its the key to our growth and evolution. Its never a one stop quick fix !! I also assert that our destiny is not just to love one person; it is to love everyone. This is the real meaning of love.

But it s not about living happily ever after once you meet a special someone….. The real commitment to loving and healing yourself begins once you are in a relationship with your new found awareness. Now that person becomes the mirror to shine and reflect EVERYTHING about you, right back at you! Just when you think you may have it worked out and under control, the next layer is revealed! Learning how to stay balanced in relationships has been paramount for me. I have learned to feel enormous gratitude for the lessons the past relationships have delivered to me so that i could reach even greater heights and depths in my spiritual evolution. The paradox is if you are ready and willing for that ride and to take responsibility for your own s#@t, the growth and in turn the love will be far greater than you ever imagined possible. Every day I continue to learn and love more about myself which allows me to open further and give and receive even more love.

I am now dedicated to living my vision, travelling the world, to inspire those who see me, through my example and my relationships, to make love their highest priority. To educate, empower and support women in their own transformation, by building their self-esteem, challenging their limiting beliefs, fears and patterns, to create a life they deserve, one of happiness, peace and purpose.

I teach women how to identify if they are in a situation where they are “loving” too much. How to truly connect with and heal themselves instead, then how to attract, date and have a conscious relationship. Or if they are already in one, how to see the perfection of the relationship “challenges” they are experiencing and how to navigate them successfully for greater fulfilment.

Whatever the question-LOVE is always the answer.

Its about being the Queen you were born to be, learning to wear your invisible crown, and becoming your own best friend.

My personal story is one of resilience, determination and above all, acceptance. Now Im passionate about changing the world, one women at a time so they too can live an inspired life.

Testimonials

What do others have to say?...

I am writing this testimonial to you Nic with great appreciation & I feel that what we have experienced over the past few months has enhanced my life on many levels.

You have shown me guidelines that I now use in my day to day life of which I am truly grateful for. These tools have given me a new drive in both my family and work life . I remember in one session how you helped me realise that I had actually built walls around myself in regards to my two boys,& I always thought I was approachable! That was such a shock but then I started to see it & since then have made steps forward to improve my connection with them both with great outcomes. The awareness is there now. I can feel that its enhancing my relationship with them both (even if things feel trying). I am making decisions know-ing that I am working with the best possible ‘Outcome’ in mind. You had a way that made it easy for me to arrive to.

When I’ve felt like things were just in the too hard basket – I would generally be too lazy to see them through and put things off or give up! You have shown me with just having an ‘Outcome’ put in place, it can give you a clearer understanding of what it is I am wanting to achieve. This has opened my eyes to cover more aspects in my life from relationships to business & learning to my own personal goals.

So thank you once again for your time, understanding & empathy. For your ability to keep me on track, fo-cused and encouragement to see things through. For having the ability to show me things aren’t always as ‘scary’ as we would have ourselves believe. You are fantastic at what you do.

With much respect to you and your future ahead,

Susan (Kingscliff, NSW)